Sex after 40 or so.

Dreamer sez:
Some folks have problems with their sex drive after a certain age, but I have found that with the right motivation, mine is higher than It was in my 20's and 30's.
First of all, it's in having the right partner. Blue Lizard and I are very open about our sex. We talk and discuss all sorts of different aspects of it. We ask questions and answer questions honestly. We have a nonjudgmental rule. Anything in the past is a reference point and not something to be used against someone.
For example, after I left my first husband, I experimented with sex a lot. I had many partners. This has proven to help me figure out some of my preferences as to cock size and angle. In Blue Lizard I found exactly what I was looking for. He's long enough, thick enough and the curve is just right.
If you have a partner who doesn't quite meet the propotions you prefer, it's not grounds for a break up. This is where being able to communicate your desires to each other comes in. It's ok to spend the afternoon talking about sex. Blue Lizard and I do this often in the nude or almost nude while touching each other or ourselves. We have had these conversations last for hours and have learned so very many things about what makes each other's sex clock tick.
You can do any number of things to make your sex great. It may be in the positioning or maybe a toy would enhance things. We own several different vibrators, dildos and attachments that we love to use.
Dryness is a problem some older women experience. I suggest a personal lubricant which can be applied inside the vagina a couple times a day. I also encourage masturbation. I use a regular vibrating massager during the day while my lover is at work. By the time he gets home I'm wet and ready. I never let masturbation serve as a replacement for the real thing. If nothing else it proves to enhance my desire for it.
There's nothing wrong with men using enhancing methods either. The little blue man pill can do wonders. Also, cock rings are good. I'm not big on sensation lubes, but to each their own.
You just got to find what works for you and don't be afraid or shy. Jump in and try things.